New Year Resolutions?!
Happy new year everyone! Hope you all had an amazing time celebrating the end of 2014 and the start of a new year. 2015 is gonna be an amazing year, I can tell already.
Now that the partying has died down and we’ve all (almost) recovered, there’s only one question on everyone lips (aside from debating theories on Hayley Williams’ wedding theme) – what are your new year resolutions? It’s the one question that sends some people into an endless tale of self-deprecation, and others into a fit of rage. Some people view the new year as a bit of a wake-up call; where they can finally kick all bad habits and become a perfect human being. And others, they see the new year as just another day. Why wait until 1st January to kick those habits or change what you don’t like about yourself or your life? I guess I’m part of the first group – although I totally agree that you can make changes at any time (and you totally should if something is making you unhappy) I think that it can be more motivating if there’s a group of you all striving to make changes and improve your lives together. A lot of people say that the group setting has a major impact when it comes to things like losing weight; maybe it’s the same for other areas too.
However, some people take these things too far. Some of you might have seen my post on Facebook last week about making unrealistic resolutions, and I completely stick by that. If you’re unhappy with your life and want to make changes, or even if you are happy but want to improve some aspects of your lifestyle, then that’s brilliant; but remember to set yourself reasonable goals, and not necessarily attempt everything at once. Imagine you’re unhappy with your weight and want to lose a few pounds, but at the same time you also want to give up smoking, cut down drinking and go running 3 times a week. All very positive changes, but let’s be realistic here – if you don’t do much exercise in December, you’re not going to be able to run marathons in January just because it’s a new year. Halving your food intake suddenly will send your body into starvation mode and will cause you to gain weight faster when you do eat. Trying to give up smoking completely is very difficult; although it’s not a habit I’ve ever had, I’ve seen many friends try (and fail) by stopping completely in just one day.
Saving your motivation for one goal at a time gives you a much higher chance of success. And doing it in small stages makes you even more likely to succeed. What’s that old saying, Rome wasn’t built in a day? They weren’t lying! It’s important to recognise your own ability and limitations too. Just because your best friend has joined the gym and is claiming to have spent an hour on the treadmill and 30 minutes on the bike on their first visit whilst eating an apple for lunch doesn’t mean that you have to do the same. I know I can just about manage 15 minutes on a treadmill if I’m lucky! Everyone has different natural abilities – just because I can pick up choreography quickly doesn’t mean I’m the best at performing it, for example. Take time to assess your own situation and what you think will be a reasonable goal for you to achieve, whether that’s making yourself a healthier lunch every day instead of grabbing fast food when out and about, or cutting down smoking gradually, or building up a routine at the gym. Some people prefer to focus on their mental wellbeing or personal development when making resolutions. Things like building your confidence, getting more sleep, or even learning a skill or trying a new hobby are all worthwhile goals as well. It doesn’t always have to be a lifestyle adjustment. And again, progress comes in small steps. Little things like looking in the mirror and telling yourself something you like about the way you look that day can lift your mood so much – as long as you mean what you’re saying. And achieving a target or goal that you’ve set yourself can make you feel on top of the world.
So, what are my new year resolutions? I’m generally happy with the way I am right now. I’m in a good state of mind, I’m fairly confident about myself (even if I am a bit shy) and I’m already doing things that I love. My one resolution this year is to spend more time doing things that make me happy. That’s it.
To elaborate, I spent quite a lot of time in 2014 thinking about things that would make me happy. Sometimes I went out and did those things, and sometimes I didn’t. So this year, I’m going for it. I love making YouTube videos and blogging, so I’m going to spend more time doing it. I really miss dancing, so I found a little fitness dance class a few minutes away from where I live – I’m giving that a go this week. It might not be technical enough for what I’m looking for, but I’ll give it a go! I also beat myself up quite a bit last year because I wasn’t going to the gym – so the Wii is getting dusted off! I used to love doing the fitness games on the Wii, but then for some reason I felt like I didn’t have time for it anymore (I’m blaming Tumblr). Saving money on a gym membership and dancing round my room, double winner! I might even make some videos to give you all a good giggle…
I also miss stupid things like reading. I don’t think I’ve read a book in 18 months. That’s despite pre-ordering Zoe’s book and Grace’s book, which are both sat on my desk untouched. I have a burlesque book that I ordered, again untouched. I want to re-read The Vampire Diaries books so that I can start reading the ones I never got a chance to read before. I want to re-read Twilight (again). Reading is something that I used to do so much as a kid. I loved it. And it’s another of those things that I don’t have time for anymore. So I’m going to make time. Even things like watching movies. I sat and watched Frozen on Boxing Day and it was amazing. No phone, no iPad, no computer, just me and my TV. I maybe do that twice a year if I’m lucky. So I’m going to make time for that too. I have no idea where all this time is coming from, but I’ll figure that out along the way! I’ll just need to be more productive with my evenings. I guess that means queuing Tumblr posts and reigning in the iPad gaming.
I’ll never be perfect, but I’m happy just the way I am! I’m just hopefully gonna be even more happy this year than I was last year. That seems like a pretty good resolution to me. :)